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Can you spot the fly on the wall? 

Neither can I and this is the purpose of embedding “A Fly on the Wall” methodology in Group Coaching.

The protruding, spherical-shaped eyes of a fly allow it to have an almost 360-degree view of the world, making it exceptionally difficult to be caught with our bare hands. 

When “A fly on the wall” methodology is incorporated in Group Coaching, the coachee just sits and does not comment on any opinion and suggestion that is offered, hence creating a space to take in all perspectives without the need to justify, counter or reason. 

In so doing, we are not prone to reacting or be hijacked by our amygdala, a part of our limbic system that drive the fight, flee or freeze response. 

Instead, we allow ourselves to reflect upon the multiple perspectives offered by the group members in relation to the challenge at hand. 

Just like the fly, we are then less likely to be caught in a sticky situation.
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 #aflyonthewall   #limbicsystem  #amygdala   #amygdalahijack  #opinion   #groupcoaching  #teamcoaching  #coaching  #perspectives  #360   #stickysituation  #multipleperspectives

Can you spot the fly on the wall? Neither can I and this is the purpose of embedding “A Fly on the Wall” methodology in Group Coaching. The protruding, spherical-shaped eyes of a fly allow it to have an almost 360-degree view of the world, making it exceptionally difficult to be caught with our bare hands. When “A fly on the wall” methodology is incorporated in Group Coaching, the coachee just sits and does not comment on any opinion and suggestion that is offered, hence creating a space to take in all perspectives without the need to justify, counter or reason. In so doing, we are not prone to reacting or be hijacked by our amygdala, a part of our limbic system that drive the fight, flee or freeze response. Instead, we allow ourselves to reflect upon the multiple perspectives offered by the group members in relation to the challenge at hand. Just like the fly, we are then less likely to be caught in a sticky situation. . . . . #aflyonthewall #limbicsystem #amygdala #amygdalahijack #opinion #groupcoaching #teamcoaching #coaching #perspectives #360 #stickysituation #multipleperspectives

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18 days ago
It was an intense week with back to back f2f and virtual facilitation; and one-on-one coaching, notwithstanding the evening classes where I reverse role to be the learner. 
 
Thankful that I get to do what fuel me or it would have been catastrophic.

Blessed weekend!
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 #weekend  #enjoy  #facilitation
 #dowhatypulove  #enthusiasm
 #cheers  #intenseweek
 #hectic

It was an intense week with back to back f2f and virtual facilitation; and one-on-one coaching, notwithstanding the evening classes where I reverse role to be the learner. Thankful that I get to do what fuel me or it would have been catastrophic. Blessed weekend! . . . . . #weekend #enjoy #facilitation #dowhatypulove #enthusiasm #cheers #intenseweek #hectic

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21 days ago
Enjoying the panoramic vista of the Marina Bay area from this training room @NTUC Business Centre.

Three days of different tints, blissful indeed! 

Apparently, you can book the learning rooms for your workshops at https://spaces.ntuc.org.sg/bizcentre
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 #panoramic  #view  #marinabay  #bliss  #trainingroom  #workshops  #workshoproom  #roomwithaview

Enjoying the panoramic vista of the Marina Bay area from this training room @NTUC Business Centre. Three days of different tints, blissful indeed! Apparently, you can book the learning rooms for your workshops at https://spaces.ntuc.org.sg/bizcentre . . . . . #panoramic #view #marinabay #bliss #trainingroom #workshops #workshoproom #roomwithaview

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23 days ago
Edmund Chan is a much-respected spiritual teacher. In his book on Mentoring Paradigms, he splits life into two orientations – around the external or the internal.

The red bar is his explanation of a default way of the world. Its success is determined by accomplishments and net worth. 

The blue bar represents deeper things that seeks to grow from the inside out, in areas such as integrity, character that gravitates towards the inward.

Whilst we need both the red and blue bars in this world, we need the stature and the substance of the person to reflect their true status in life. 

Take this week to measure where your focus is, whether you are a mentor or a mentee. When the blue bar rises above the red, we will achieve inner growth rather than the default way of the world.

Be warned, if we ultimately compare with others and take pride in the inner life, we might just have made the blue bar a red bar achievement.

Have a blessed week!
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 #Mentoring  #innergrowth
 #characters  #authenticity  #substance  #sage  #innerlife
 #rested  #empowering

Edmund Chan is a much-respected spiritual teacher. In his book on Mentoring Paradigms, he splits life into two orientations – around the external or the internal. The red bar is his explanation of a default way of the world. Its success is determined by accomplishments and net worth. The blue bar represents deeper things that seeks to grow from the inside out, in areas such as integrity, character that gravitates towards the inward. Whilst we need both the red and blue bars in this world, we need the stature and the substance of the person to reflect their true status in life. Take this week to measure where your focus is, whether you are a mentor or a mentee. When the blue bar rises above the red, we will achieve inner growth rather than the default way of the world. Be warned, if we ultimately compare with others and take pride in the inner life, we might just have made the blue bar a red bar achievement. Have a blessed week! . . . . #mentoring #innergrowth #characters #authenticity #substance #sage #innerlife #Rested #Empowering

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25 days ago
Just hosted a webinar for coaches last evening and sharing the output here.

Writing a book is in the bucket list of many professionals but procrastination seems to be the biggest hurdle to cross. Asia Pacific Alliance of Coaches (APAC) members were treated to a first-hand sharing from a panel of authors on what spurred them to write their first book.

From clarifying her core intention to contribute to the world of leadership, broadcasting to everyone on her plan of penning her accumulated knowledge on a book, to treating his love of the language as an artistry through writing, @staceyashleycoaching , Catherine Chai and Leon Vanderpol found their ways to overcoming all odds in completing their manuscripts. 

To fulfil your dream to write, their advice includes illuminating your purpose behind writing, beginning with what interest you or what you are really good at, taking baby step of writing 100 or 1,000 words a day, joining a book-writing club, setting aside absolutely-protected time, creating your momentum and finding your zone for once you have written your first, it can only get easier.
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 #authors  #writing  #authoring
 #loveforwriting  #leadership
 #intention  #manuscripts 
 #1000words  #dream

Just hosted a webinar for coaches last evening and sharing the output here. Writing a book is in the bucket list of many professionals but procrastination seems to be the biggest hurdle to cross. Asia Pacific Alliance of Coaches (APAC) members were treated to a first-hand sharing from a panel of authors on what spurred them to write their first book. From clarifying her core intention to contribute to the world of leadership, broadcasting to everyone on her plan of penning her accumulated knowledge on a book, to treating his love of the language as an artistry through writing, @staceyashleycoaching , Catherine Chai and Leon Vanderpol found their ways to overcoming all odds in completing their manuscripts. To fulfil your dream to write, their advice includes illuminating your purpose behind writing, beginning with what interest you or what you are really good at, taking baby step of writing 100 or 1,000 words a day, joining a book-writing club, setting aside absolutely-protected time, creating your momentum and finding your zone for once you have written your first, it can only get easier. . . . . #authors #Writing #authoring #loveforwriting #leadership #intention #manuscripts #1000words #dream

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29 days ago
Listening has got to be one of the hardest skills to master. How do you measure when real listening takes place? 

Sometimes, we can't even listen to ourselves. This is when a thinking partner comes into place. 

Listen not just to the words, but what kind of words are used. Listen not just to the story, but what's behind the story.  Listen to the tone, the expressions, the feelings, the emotions, the energy and the patterns. Listen also to the assumptions, beliefs, dreams and aspirations. 

When that takes place, we will surely begin to hear.
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 #listening  #listen
 #thinkingpartner  #story
 #behindthestory  #coaching
 #mentoring

Listening has got to be one of the hardest skills to master. How do you measure when real listening takes place? Sometimes, we can't even listen to ourselves. This is when a thinking partner comes into place. Listen not just to the words, but what kind of words are used. Listen not just to the story, but what's behind the story. Listen to the tone, the expressions, the feelings, the emotions, the energy and the patterns. Listen also to the assumptions, beliefs, dreams and aspirations. When that takes place, we will surely begin to hear. . . . . . #listening #listen #thinkingpartner #story #behindthestory #coaching #mentoring

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a month ago
“Advice is like snow – the softer it falls, the longer it dwells upon and the deeper it sinks into the mind.” ~ Samuel Taylor Coleridge

Mentors are not Know-It-Alls. Advice given without active listening or given at the wrong time can be futile. Adapting the 4 points author Dr Les Parrott put it:

1.	Advice is often self-centred
When there is a lack of sensitive listening to the others, mentors may be listening from their own point of view. Hence, advice given with an eagerness on mentors’ part to dish out solutions could be making the mentors rather than the mentees feel better.

2.	Advice can make mentees feel worse
When confronted with afflictions, mentees require more empathy than advice. When mentees are given advice that they cannot follow through, it can make them feel more miserable on top of their challenges.

3.	Advice can be threatening
When mentors provide advice like a Know-It-All, it could sub-consciously stem from their own insecurity to serve their own beliefs and attitudes. Such advice can come across as threatening to the mentees. 
 
4.	Advice can be boring
A long monologue from the mentors can be a boring and uninspiring session for the mentees, especially when the mentees feel they are not being heard. Mentees who are bored are just taking a mental vacation as the mentors speak.

Stay tune to find out how mentors can listen actively with more sensitivity and attentiveness. 
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 #snow  #advice  #soundwave  #mentee
 #knowitall   #mentor
 #mentoringprogrammes 
 #mentoring 
 #mentoringprogramme 
 #mentoringleaders 
 #mentoringleadership

“Advice is like snow – the softer it falls, the longer it dwells upon and the deeper it sinks into the mind.” ~ Samuel Taylor Coleridge Mentors are not Know-It-Alls. Advice given without active listening or given at the wrong time can be futile. Adapting the 4 points author Dr Les Parrott put it: 1. Advice is often self-centred When there is a lack of sensitive listening to the others, mentors may be listening from their own point of view. Hence, advice given with an eagerness on mentors’ part to dish out solutions could be making the mentors rather than the mentees feel better. 2. Advice can make mentees feel worse When confronted with afflictions, mentees require more empathy than advice. When mentees are given advice that they cannot follow through, it can make them feel more miserable on top of their challenges. 3. Advice can be threatening When mentors provide advice like a Know-It-All, it could sub-consciously stem from their own insecurity to serve their own beliefs and attitudes. Such advice can come across as threatening to the mentees. 4. Advice can be boring A long monologue from the mentors can be a boring and uninspiring session for the mentees, especially when the mentees feel they are not being heard. Mentees who are bored are just taking a mental vacation as the mentors speak. Stay tune to find out how mentors can listen actively with more sensitivity and attentiveness. . . . . #snow #advice #soundwave #mentee #knowitall #mentor #mentoringprogrammes #mentoring #mentoringprogramme #MentoringLeaders #mentoringleadership

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a month ago
“And they lived happily ever after” is one of the most tragic sentences in literature. It’s tragic because it’s a falsehood. It’s a myth that has led generations to expect something from marriage that is not possible. ~ Joshua Lievman

Many research has pointed the source of societal issues to unstable families. Not only are stable families the bedrock of society, they will inevitably impact the well-being of employees, which ultimately affect employee engagement and desired outcomes of organisations.

It’s the weekend, so here’s something on marriage mentoring tips taken from “The Complete Guide to Marriage Mentoring. 

According to Dr Les Parrott, spending time running errands or meeting with other friends is not spending quality time together as a couple. 

Schedule consistent and routine time alone with just each other will help make your honeymoon come alive and not just a distant memory. 

When couple date becomes a habit, there is less chance of having disconnection in a marriage where we allow working all week and collapsing on weekends or having the flurry of all other activities cloud out the honeymoon habit.
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 #mentoringcouples  #marriagementoring
 #mentoring
 #familylives
 #bedrock  #stablefamilies
 #couplehabit  #qualitytime

“And they lived happily ever after” is one of the most tragic sentences in literature. It’s tragic because it’s a falsehood. It’s a myth that has led generations to expect something from marriage that is not possible. ~ Joshua Lievman Many research has pointed the source of societal issues to unstable families. Not only are stable families the bedrock of society, they will inevitably impact the well-being of employees, which ultimately affect employee engagement and desired outcomes of organisations. It’s the weekend, so here’s something on marriage mentoring tips taken from “The Complete Guide to Marriage Mentoring. According to Dr Les Parrott, spending time running errands or meeting with other friends is not spending quality time together as a couple. Schedule consistent and routine time alone with just each other will help make your honeymoon come alive and not just a distant memory. When couple date becomes a habit, there is less chance of having disconnection in a marriage where we allow working all week and collapsing on weekends or having the flurry of all other activities cloud out the honeymoon habit. . . . . #mentoringcouples #marriagementoring #mentoring #familylives #bedrock #stablefamilies #couplehabit #qualitytime

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a month ago
Mentoring can be applied to career, discipleship, leadership, marriage, parenting and other areas. 

Digging out some mentoring books to prepare for a programme for developing mentors among the senior leadership of an organisation.  Here are the titles:

•	Becoming an effective Mentoring Leader: Proven Strategies for Building Excellence in Your Organization by William J. Rothwell and Dr Peter Chee

•	Coaching and Mentoring by Florence Stone

•	Mentoring Paradigms: Reflections on Mentoring, Leadership and Discipleship by Edmund Chan

•	The Complete Guide to Marriage Mentoring by Drs Les & Leslie and Parrott

•	Woman to Woman: Preparing Yourself to Mentor
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 #mentoring   #mentors  #leadersasmentors  #leaderasmentor  #mentoringleaders
 #paradigm  #discipleship  #marriagementor

Mentoring can be applied to career, discipleship, leadership, marriage, parenting and other areas. Digging out some mentoring books to prepare for a programme for developing mentors among the senior leadership of an organisation. Here are the titles: • Becoming an effective Mentoring Leader: Proven Strategies for Building Excellence in Your Organization by William J. Rothwell and Dr Peter Chee • Coaching and Mentoring by Florence Stone • Mentoring Paradigms: Reflections on Mentoring, Leadership and Discipleship by Edmund Chan • The Complete Guide to Marriage Mentoring by Drs Les & Leslie and Parrott • Woman to Woman: Preparing Yourself to Mentor . . . . . #mentoring #mentors #leadersasmentors #leaderasmentor #MentoringLeaders #paradigm #discipleship #marriagementor

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a month ago
I have the privilege to take the roles of both a mentor and a mentee before. This duo-perspective allows me to appreciate what best serve both parties.

A mentor advises, coaches, encourages, inspires, motivates and nurtures.

Combining all these, the fundamental role of a mentor is an Enabler and Uplifter, according to the authors of Becoming an Effective Mentoring Leader.

Share your experience as a mentor or mentee here if you have been one.
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 #mentoring  #mentor  #advisor
 #motivator   #enabler  #uplifter
 #guide  #inspirer  #nurturer

I have the privilege to take the roles of both a mentor and a mentee before. This duo-perspective allows me to appreciate what best serve both parties. A mentor advises, coaches, encourages, inspires, motivates and nurtures. Combining all these, the fundamental role of a mentor is an Enabler and Uplifter, according to the authors of Becoming an Effective Mentoring Leader. Share your experience as a mentor or mentee here if you have been one. . . . . . #mentoring #mentor #advisor #motivator #enabler #uplifter #guide #inspirer #nurturer

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a month ago
I submitted my proposal a day earlier and told my client I would be out of office for a full-day round-island cycling. As it turned out, the carefully-curated park-hoping plan was completely washed out by the relentless rain.

Oh well, “When life gives you lemons, make lemonade.” 

I went for an evening ride instead which was breezy and unusually pleasant, sighting a different side of Singapore I have perhaps overlooked. 

The tranquil night, with its dense air embracing the well-lit skyscrapers and streets, and scattered with numerous ardent cyclists, joggers and strollers were all a surreal concoction to behold. 

This charming evening was a real lemonade treat I absolutely savour.

How was your lemonade during this pandemic?
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 #lemon   #lemonade  #cycling  #singapore  #jogger  #pandemic
 #mindset  #createyourlemonade

I submitted my proposal a day earlier and told my client I would be out of office for a full-day round-island cycling. As it turned out, the carefully-curated park-hoping plan was completely washed out by the relentless rain. Oh well, “When life gives you lemons, make lemonade.” I went for an evening ride instead which was breezy and unusually pleasant, sighting a different side of Singapore I have perhaps overlooked. The tranquil night, with its dense air embracing the well-lit skyscrapers and streets, and scattered with numerous ardent cyclists, joggers and strollers were all a surreal concoction to behold. This charming evening was a real lemonade treat I absolutely savour. How was your lemonade during this pandemic? . . . . . #lemon #lemonade #cycling #singapore #jogger #pandemic #mindset #createyourlemonade

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a month ago
Authoring Your Own Book

Do you have the desire to write a book? For many people, writing a book has been a lifelong dream, yet one that’s always just out of reach. Today it’s easier than ever to publish your own book, and many coaches and consultants are doing just that.

In this webinar hosted by Asia Pacific Alliance of Coaches (APAC), hear from a panel of coaches from Australia, Singapore, and Taiwan who have authored their own books. 

Find out how these authors did it, overcoming the challenges along the way, and get inspired to move forward with writing your own.

Webinar: Authoring Your Own Book
When: Wednesday, 30 June 2021, 8PM - 9:15PM SG/HK time
Where: On APAC’s Zoom
Fee:
I. APAC Members – FREE
II. Non-members – SGD 10.00
How to register: http://www.apacoaches.org/authoring-your-own-book/
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 #authoring  #authors 
 #writeabook  #publishingabook 
 #writingabook  #pen_legends

Authoring Your Own Book Do you have the desire to write a book? For many people, writing a book has been a lifelong dream, yet one that’s always just out of reach. Today it’s easier than ever to publish your own book, and many coaches and consultants are doing just that. In this webinar hosted by Asia Pacific Alliance of Coaches (APAC), hear from a panel of coaches from Australia, Singapore, and Taiwan who have authored their own books. Find out how these authors did it, overcoming the challenges along the way, and get inspired to move forward with writing your own. Webinar: Authoring Your Own Book When: Wednesday, 30 June 2021, 8PM - 9:15PM SG/HK time Where: On APAC’s Zoom Fee: I. APAC Members – FREE II. Non-members – SGD 10.00 How to register: http://www.apacoaches.org/authoring-your-own-book/ . . . . . #authoring #authors #writeabook #publishingabook #writingabook #pen_legends

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a month ago